Support For Adolescents: Getting through it

  • ACCEPT your loss as final. This is the first step in healing.

  • ALLOW yourself to feel the hurt. You can't heal what you don't feel.

  • DON'T try to escape your feelings through drug or alcohol use. Allow the natural healing process to take place.

  • TALK. Find a friend, family member or counsellor with whom you can share.

  • LAUGH. You can laugh and still love the person who died. Cry when you need to, laugh when you can.

  • WRITE your feelings. Creativity is a great way to express your feelings. Write or draw, on paper or the computer.

  • REACH OUT to old, or make new friends. They can be your best source of support.

  • FIND a support group. Sharing with others who are dealing with the same issues as you can be helpful.

  • HELP someone else. Take the focus off yourself and reinvest your energy in others. This may help you begin to fill the emptiness in your heart.

  • MEET with a professional counsellor. These are difficult days. If you feel you need additional support and understanding, ask.

Adapted from "Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers", by Earl A. Grollman

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